About being a coach:what is happening when coaching is working well? Useful insights...........

ICF definition of coaching:
Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to help clients produce
fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Coaches help people improve
their performance and enhance the quality of their lives. Coaches are trained to listen,to observe and to customise their approach to individual client needs. They seek to elicit
solutions and strategies from the client; they believe the client is naturally creative and
resourceful. The coaches job is to provide support to enhance the skills,resources, and
creativity that the client already has ( ICF 2005)
The context:
The coach understands that they are not the client and that there may be a range of differences in age,gender,life experience,beliefs etc. that have shaped the clients map of the world or world view. There is a need to focus on the clients view of the world and wonder what is it like to be that person right now....
The coach:
- Has a real passion for what they do
- Knows how to listen and understandat deep levels to foster a climate of openness and trust so that the client feels genuinely understood , valued and fully engaged
- Takes time to really understand the situation and the clients perspective through listening
- Builds rapport quickly through an adaptive and flexible approach by understanding rapport stages and states
- Provides objective feedback acting as a mirror for the client
- Helps to explore and clarify goals and encourages action helping the client to become self reliant
- Understands the space they are working in (e.g. Life, Executive, Career, Business coaching etc) and the context involved to adapt and use their skills in the interests of their client
- Makes informed use of tools and assessment aproaches but does not rely on them solely to gain an understanding of a clients situation
- Is continuously honing their skills through ongoing personal development and exploration.
Mind Mastery
Being coaches we have knowledge of The Law of Belief:
“What we think we become.”
Mastering the mind means checking our thoughts and our current actions because they create our future.
- Lead a simple life. Successful people always want to do more! Therefore we often find ourselves involved in too many committees, too many activities and doing 300% more than our body’s health can handle. Ask yourself; ‘Is my schedule healthy?’. When we create a healthy schedule of activities our higher power then has a chance to work with us. A ‘busy as a bee’ schedule denies the higher power a chance to give us innovative ideas unless we devote a good chunk of time to meditation . A simple life is a precious gift to self.
Coach self every day Monday through Friday. Devotion to self is easier than you think! Simply go to www.TheBrainWalk.com and do The Brain Walk® everyday to eliminate frustrations and develop innovative solutions to your own challenges and goals. This award-winning methodology has been given free to the world by Coaching and Leadership International Inc. The universal Law of Service kicks in here … “The more I love myself, the better I can serve others.” As we coach ourselves daily, we clear ourselves of the negative self-talk that lurks in the subconscious – we turn that negative self-talk into positive belief. Yeah! PS Send your clients to do The Brain Walk everyday – it will expedite the results they receive with your weekly coaching sessions. You’ll be amazed.
Be Coachable. At the very least, once every three months, be coached by a senior Coach or mentor Coach. Their experience, knowledge of human behaviour and intuitive ability will be different from yours and will greatly assist you in moving forward in all areas of your life.
Draw your dream. Keep it on the fridge! Put it under your pillow so that your subconscious can make it happen. (This really works.)
Colours: wear cheerful colourful clothing even when you aren’t coaching. Avoid black unless with colourful accents such as colourful scarves or jewellery for women and ties for men. Paint your home and office colours that lift the spirit and positively affect your mind.
Be careful who you listen to. Trust your own intuition. Do The Brain Walk® and meditate for your own clarity. Over the years I have repeatedly noticed how family and friends have tried to influence my choices – and I’m extremely happy that I didn’t listen to naysayers.
Change your paradigms. Full moon? Mercury in retrograde? It is curious how many folks go into fear around Mercury in retrograde. They automatically believe that they will have relationship issues, their computer will break down, their business will stop flowing in and their cat will pee on the rug! Remember The Law of Belief. If we have fears, we will attract them. It’s better to close your eyes and see yourself in the centre of the Universe unaffected by its energies. This works because everything is energy.
Hang out only with positive people.
Set your boundaries. Tell people what you need from them and ask them what they need from you in order to not waste energy on unfulfilled need.Celebrate your successes! Incorporate more laughter and joy into your life.
- Daily gratitude. Thank each of your Clients for the opportunity to serve them. Silently thank them for helping you to also rise in consciousness. Have you noticed that clients often bring us the very issues that we too need to work on?
- Think abundance. Believe that you are as rich as royalty . . . in all ways! More good people need more money in order to do more good things for the planet.
INSIGHTS
Insight 1 : Revealing Hidden Barriers
Early on in coaching relationships it can be insightful to have a conversation with clients about the “domains of knowledge” in life and in business. Most people are aware of only two dimensions of knowledge:
“what they know they know” (how to read a specific formula, for example) and
“what they know that they don’t know” (for example,how to complete some complex engineering )
Very few people are aware of the third dimension of knowledge, the dimension that Albert Einstein called the largest domain of all:
that which “we don’t know that we don’t know”.
This third dimension can be the biggest limiter in business and personal lives. It is also a dimension that people are absolutely helpless to see by themselves; it can only be seen and revealed by another.
Classic leadership conversations typically operate only in the first two realms of knowledge. A leader points out to a follower the things that the person admits he doesn’t know or isn’t correctly doing, and then gives them benchmarks of input and expected performance. The measure in this conversation is visible, predictable improvement of something both parties can readily see needs to be done.
Classic coaching conversations, by contrast, open up the third dimension of knowledge, revealing to the client what they don’t know what they don’t know.
KEY INSIGHT
Performance improvements may occur when the first two dimensions are explored, but performance breakthroughs occur when parts of the third dimension are revealed. It can enable a step change in thinking.
ANOTHER PERSPECTIVE

WAYS OF BEING AWARE OF OUR IMPACT AS A COACH
It can be helpful to see coaching as interplay between two ways of being- Thought and Action interacting with two dimensions of intervention – Support and Challenge.
As a coach we need to be very aware of our biases and where we are operating at any point in a coaching session.
The two dimensional model helps to provide some insights and reflection on the way we interact. As individuals we have been shaped by our life experiences and the resultant beliefs , life rules and values that we hold.
This naturally influences how we engage with clients and the value of resultant outcomes.
For example, if we spend most of our time operating in the Support for Thought quadrant then it allows the client to stay within their world or perceived reality and doesn’t help them to consider other people perspectives of their actions and beliefs.
It could end up with a client enjoying the conversation but not converting insight into action . If this is the case we may need to reflect on the right time to Challenge for Action
If we focus too much on Challenge for Thought instead of Support for Thought we might bulldoze clients towards an outcome before a real understanding or commitment has developed.
At the same time Challenge for Thought can enable a client to evaluate something whilst keeping a distance from underlying emotions
KEY INSIGHT
The model helps to illustrate the ways we can interact and the importance of being fully aware of how we are engaging and operating during a coaching session. A degree of sophistication and subtelty is needed to dance between the different approaches in the flow and context of any specific client session
February 2008
STATEMENT OF SHARED PROFESSIONAL VALUES
Purpose
This statement has been agreed by the coaching professional bodies in the UK who cooperate to enhance the reputation of the coaching industry.
In the emerging profession of coaching, we believe that:
- Every coach, whether charging fees for coaching provided to individuals or organisations or both, is best served by being a member of a professional body suiting his/her needs.
- Every coach needs to abide by a code of governing ethics and apply acknowledged standards to the performance of their coaching work.
- Every coach needs to invest in their ongoing continuing professional development to ensure the quality of their service and their level of skill is enhanced.
- Every coach has a duty of care to ensure the good reputation of our emerging profession.
The following are fundamental principles by which we expect our members to operate:
Meta Principle: To continually enhance the competence and reputation of the coaching profession
Principle One - Reputation
Every coach will act positively and in a manner that increases the public’s understanding and acceptance of coaching...
Principle Two - Continuous Competence Enhancement
Every coach accepts the need to enhance their experience, knowledge, capability and competence on a continuous basis.
Principle Three - Client Centred
Every client is creative, resourceful and whole and the coach’s role is to keep the development of that client central to his/her work, ensuring all services provided are appropriate to the client’s needs.
Principle Four - Confidentiality and Standards
Every coach has a professional responsibility (beyond the terms of the contract with the client) to apply high standards in their service provision and behaviour. He/she needs to be open and frank about methods and techniques used in the coaching process, maintain only appropriate records and to respect the confidentiality a) of the work with their clients and b) or their representative body’s members information.
Principle Five - Law and Diversity
Every coach will act within the Laws of the jurisdictions within which they practice and will also acknowledge and promote diversity at all times.
Principle Six - Boundary Management
Every coach will recognise their own limitations of competence and the need to exercise boundary management. The client’s right to terminate the coaching process will be respected at all times, as will the need to acknowledge different approaches to coaching which may be more effective for the client than their own. Every endeavour will be taken to ensure the avoidance of conflicts of interest.
Principle Seven - Personal Pledge
Every coach will undertake to abide by the above principles that will complement the principles, codes of ethics and conduct set out by their own representative body to which they adhere and by the breach of which they would be required to undergo due process.
About the UK Coaching Bodies Roundtable:
The purpose of the Roundtable is to co-labour as representative bodies to maintain the principles on which the various bodies agree and through which the bodies will operate:
- To co-operate to enhance the reputation of the coaching industry
- To issue joint statements on issues of shared concern
- To discuss of the areas where collaboration might be of benefit
Members of the Roundtable include (in alphabetical order):
| AC | Association for Coaching |
| APECS | Association of Professional Executive Coaching and Supervision |
| EMCC UK | European Mentoring and Coaching Council – UK |
| UK ICF | The International Coach Federation in the UK |